Guest post by Teri Rabaiotti
I am a messy person, I’d drive my mum bonkers as a kid with my messy room and would sometimes come home from school with the contents of my room in the back garden after she’d thrown them out of the window 😉 I have periods of neat-freak-ness much to the delight of my husband, however they are short lived. I think it’s because I like to have things & stuff around me. I blame it on my dreadfully short attention span. One minute I’ll be reading, then I’ll have urge to draw, then I’ll remember website I wanted to visit…and on and on it goes.
As I write this, to my right I have-
My make up bag
An assortment of pens
A wedding invitation
The TV remotes
A glass of squash
All around the house in places I frequent I have a little stockpile of things. The bathroom has bits of make up and discarded jewellery and next to my bed is also like one of those games where you have to memorise all the random items
Despite this higgledy piggledy existence I do have a talent for knowing exactly where things are. I lovingly refer to it as my “Mind Palace”. Now, I am no Sherlock Holmes but my knack for knowing the exact whereabouts of stuff and even finding things in other people’s houses is sometimes quite strange! My mum thinks I should be hired as a professional finder. I also thought that I was good at decluttering, every year I have a huge clear out and as a former charity shop manager I am good at differentiating between sellable items and things that should be thrown away. I even have an agreement with myself that whatever I buy, I donate something back, however it seems the flow of things in and out are the same and therefore a difference cannot be seen.
After a whirlwind few weeks of bad news, being away from home, supporting my family, holidaying with my in laws & living out of a bag I am finally home.
Having such few possessions with me & living out of a routine & feeling the freedom that a good view & sea air can give you I have come home with a new perspective of my home & stuff. I looked at my hefty clothing collection and thought- do I really need all of this? I looked in drawers that house useful things but also random junk and thought- what’s the point?! I felt disconnected to things in my home when I want to feel like it’s the place I should feel the most connected to and surrounded by things I truly love.
I decided to buy this book to help me organise my life and hopefully my mind too. The concept is decluttering and tidying by only keeping things which bring you joy and doing it all at once. So far I’m on page 84 and am already mulling over the enormity of the task that lies ahead. Apparently the process can take 6 months, apparently we have all been tidying the wrong way all our lives as the key is in decluttering by category and not by room/area. All the clothes, all the books, all the papers, all the “misc”. There is also a life changing folding technique which I am yet to come across but excited to implement, even if that does mean I need a chest of drawers in my life.
We all know that clean house=clean mind so I’m looking forward to this process. I feel like even though we do a big clean every week it’s more cleaning rather than clearing, and the drawers and cupboards have been niggling away at me for a while. I know there’s a correlation between mental health and organisation because when I give the bedroom a good sort- I sleep better. If my drawers and cupboards and clothes and everything were organised and present because I truly love them- that’s gotta be good for the mind and soul, right?
I would love to share this journey with you. Have you read this book or any other books about decluttering? Are you messy or tidy? What are your decluttering tips?
Teri Rabaiotti From Cardiff living in Bristol. From charity shop volunteer to charity shop manager in just a year, Teri is now embarking on a start up charity of her own inspired by her journey of self discovery. www.charityshoprealness.com @teri_realness